…I received word from Elizabeth that our close friend, Lisa’s mum, Stephanie, passed away at 04:20 this morning after battling various illnesses. Even more tragic is that today would have been her sixtieth birthday, if Rachel is correct.
I remember chatting to Elizabeth’s mum about Steph, not having met her yet. Elizabeth’s mum summed her up as flamboyant. When I eventually did have the honour of meeting Steph, she was flamboyant…and caring…and funny…and loving…and gracious…and inspiring…and the list goes on.
People often say when one no longer walks a road with someone to “remember the good times” – and I do. I have searched the deepest recesses of my mind for a tainted memory of some sort and nothing comes up. I distinctly remember the last time we had a get-together at Lisa’s flat (behind her parents’ house). The lights of the main house were off, so I just popped into the flat – moments later Lisa’s phone rang. Steph was on the line wanting to know why I had not popped in to say hello.
I went in to say hello and we ended up chatting for almost an hour! She was always positive about everything, despite her troubling health. I remember telling her how much the farm takes out of me and that I know it is not something I see myself doing long-term and she would encourage me to do what would make me happy; to never stop dreaming.
She also had a strange, yet fond fascination with my hair. Whenever she saw me she would compliment me on it, or run her fingers through it. She was also always interested in potential romances; she would tease Rachel often about all her “boyfriends”.
My heart is aching terribly today – not only for Steph’s departure; for Lisa and her father and Steph’s mum left behind, but because it brought me to a terrible realization that Steph was younger than both my parents. It made me realize just how fortunate I am to still have them with me. Seems as I get older, Death makes me a little more aware of my mortality.
Steph – You were loved by many, and you will be sorely missed. Rest now, in the arms of the angels.